Limiting Beliefs II: How To Beat Self-Doubt

Look, it happens to us all at one time or another… So what can we do about it? Lots actually. Read on… It Happens To Us All Roger Federer is one of the best tennis players ever to walk this planet. He’s known for his calm demeanour and superb control and temperament on the tennis courts even when faced with the most difficult conditions – and I’ll bet you 1000 camels that he has suffered self-doubt just like the rest of us. Tiger Woods, Oprah Winfrey, Ghandi, Meryl Streep, Jackie Chan… choose your celebrity. They’ve all had moments of self-doubt. … Read The Full Article …

Limiting Beliefs: Are You Being Your Biggest Hurdle?

Are you your own worst enemy? Now is a good time to look deeper into the issue and wonder if what’s standing between you and your goal is not just … you (your beliefs, your values, your behavior, …). When we self-sabotage or make excuses which prevent us from moving forward, we are giving in to our Limiting Beliefs. For instance, you may want a new job but you lack confidence in yourself and can’t stand to be rejected. You may want to start a family but you scare all the men (/women) away with your demanding attitude. You may … Read The Full Article …

Filters: Every Story Is Incomplete… & What To Do About It

Strange title, I know. It’s inspired by some feedback I received. From two people in particular. Two particular misunderstandings. Inspired by people who’ve been inspired. People who’ve been inspired by me – or more particularly by my story. I’m flattered that both people were inspired in some way, but actually, they weren’t inspired by my story. They were inspired by part of my story. That part of my story that they saw, heard or read about. … and that’s the problem with all stories All of these things are subjected to heavy filtering. Worth bearing in mind when we make … Read The Full Article …

Get Better Results: Begin With The End In Mind

It’s always a good idea to begin with the end in mind. Once you have absolute clarity about where you are trying to get to, it’s much easier to determine exactly where you are and where you’re going. This applies no matter how long the timescale or how big the task. This is a simple concept which has been stated many different ways by many different people. I am going to keep it brief but make reference to as many key words and phrases as I can for two reasons: you’re probably already familiar with the concept coined one way … Read The Full Article …

Understanding Values: How to Use Values To Motivate Yourself and Others

“When your values are clear to you, making decisions becomes easier.” – Roy. E. Disney Values are things that motivate us, reflecting our sense of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ and our preferences concerning appropriate courses of action or outcomes. Values, therefore tend to influence our attitudes and behavior. For example: if you value equality and you join an organization which clearly has different rules for men and women, then you may conclude that the organization is an unfair place to work and either you wouldn’t perform to the best of your ability (being demotivated) or you may end up leaving. Understanding … Read The Full Article …

Visualization: How To Create Your Compelling Future

Are you already familiar with this expression? Compelling Future is an NLP concept, and a very powerful one. It is used by sportsmen and politicians to help them reach their goals. And now maybe by you… In a previous Life Coaching article: ‘How To Create (& Use) A Life Coaching Wheel’, we worked on pinning down your goal. A realistic, positive and inspiring, timed, precise goal, formulated in the present tense. With your goal came outcomes or consequences (what will change for me, what will change for others once I have reached my goal). Go back to your Life Coaching … Read The Full Article …

Mindfulness: How to Practice the Art of Mindfulness

Mindfulness originates from Buddhism but it has become increasingly popular in the West. It has recently been used to treat patients with depression, chronic fatigue, cancer, stress… and has shown very promising results. Results you can expect include: an increased ability to relax greater energy and enthusiasm for life heightened self-belief and an increased ability to cope more effectively with both short and long-term stressful situations What Is Mindfulness? Mindfulness is becoming aware of what’s around us here and now. In fact, it’s the exact opposite to what we normally do: going through our endless tasks, thinking about what we … Read The Full Article …

The Growth Mindset: Can Talent Be Learned?

When faced with a difficult challenge, which of these would you be most likely to say: Would you be likely to say ‘I can’t do this’ or would you be more likely to say: ‘I’ll figure it out’? It may seem like a simple enough question but it points to a deeper issue about our mindset. i.e. is your belief system focused mainly around your innate ability (that you are generally capable or not capable of something and that this is relatively fixed) or around the idea that anything is possible and can be learned (that something you cannot do … Read The Full Article …

Conflict Resolution: How To Grab The Opportunities Of A Conflict

Do you shy away from conflict? Despite their costs, conflicts have a lot of opportunities to offer and you’ve got to learn to seize them. I’ve seen many conflicts, in my life and at my workplace. Unfortunately, many got out of hand with terrible results: split teams, missed targets, broken relationships. But conflict does not have to end that way. Now, I’m not saying you’ve got to pick up a fight at every opportunity! Read our article on Office Politics to see that conflict is certainly not always the best option. But, sometimes, it’s appropriate to get into a conflict … Read The Full Article …

Cognitive Dissonance II: How To Influence Others

Do you need to influence others? Then you might want to add this simple and somewhat counter-intuitive method to your toolbox… There are times when you need to be able to influence others (at work, on important issues, your children,…) and not just their actions but their beliefs too. You could use reciprocity, social proof, authority,… There are many ways to influence others. This one is based on Cognitive Dissonance and I particularly like it because it can have positive long-lasting effects on people – if used positively! First, let’s review briefly what Cognitive Dissonance is. We previously talked about … Read The Full Article …