Filters: Every Story Is Incomplete… & What To Do About It

Strange title, I know. It’s inspired by some feedback I received. From two people in particular. Two particular misunderstandings. Inspired by people who’ve been inspired. People who’ve been inspired by me – or more particularly by my story. I’m flattered that both people were inspired in some way, but actually, they weren’t inspired by my story. They were inspired by part of my story. That part of my story that they saw, heard or read about. … and that’s the problem with all stories All of these things are subjected to heavy filtering. Worth bearing in mind when we make … Read The Full Article …

Understanding Values: How to Use Values To Motivate Yourself and Others

“When your values are clear to you, making decisions becomes easier.” – Roy. E. Disney Values are things that motivate us, reflecting our sense of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ and our preferences concerning appropriate courses of action or outcomes. Values, therefore tend to influence our attitudes and behavior. For example: if you value equality and you join an organization which clearly has different rules for men and women, then you may conclude that the organization is an unfair place to work and either you wouldn’t perform to the best of your ability (being demotivated) or you may end up leaving. Understanding … Read The Full Article …

Visualization: How To Create Your Compelling Future

Are you already familiar with this expression? Compelling Future is an NLP concept, and a very powerful one. It is used by sportsmen and politicians to help them reach their goals. And now maybe by you… In a previous Life Coaching article: ‘How To Create (& Use) A Life Coaching Wheel’, we worked on pinning down your goal. A realistic, positive and inspiring, timed, precise goal, formulated in the present tense. With your goal came outcomes or consequences (what will change for me, what will change for others once I have reached my goal). Go back to your Life Coaching … Read The Full Article …

Mindfulness: How to Practice the Art of Mindfulness

Mindfulness originates from Buddhism but it has become increasingly popular in the West. It has recently been used to treat patients with depression, chronic fatigue, cancer, stress… and has shown very promising results. Results you can expect include: an increased ability to relax greater energy and enthusiasm for life heightened self-belief and an increased ability to cope more effectively with both short and long-term stressful situations What Is Mindfulness? Mindfulness is becoming aware of what’s around us here and now. In fact, it’s the exact opposite to what we normally do: going through our endless tasks, thinking about what we … Read The Full Article …

The Growth Mindset: Can Talent Be Learned?

When faced with a difficult challenge, which of these would you be most likely to say: Would you be likely to say ‘I can’t do this’ or would you be more likely to say: ‘I’ll figure it out’? It may seem like a simple enough question but it points to a deeper issue about our mindset. i.e. is your belief system focused mainly around your innate ability (that you are generally capable or not capable of something and that this is relatively fixed) or around the idea that anything is possible and can be learned (that something you cannot do … Read The Full Article …

Semantic Association: Is ‘Networking’ a Dirty Word?

Are you one of those people for whom ‘Networking‘ feels like a dirty word? What images spring to mind when you hear the word ‘networking’? That it’s purely business related, that it’s something sleazy or something that other people do but you’re not very good at. Perhaps you think of those networking events that make you uncomfortable, of too many suits, tedious conversations with feigned interest and business cards. It’s true that networking is a word which for some people can mean these things – because words have associations and sometimes these can take over from the actual meaning of … Read The Full Article …

Cognitive Dissonance II: How To Influence Others

Do you need to influence others? Then you might want to add this simple and somewhat counter-intuitive method to your toolbox… There are times when you need to be able to influence others (at work, on important issues, your children,…) and not just their actions but their beliefs too. You could use reciprocity, social proof, authority,… There are many ways to influence others. This one is based on Cognitive Dissonance and I particularly like it because it can have positive long-lasting effects on people – if used positively! First, let’s review briefly what Cognitive Dissonance is. We previously talked about … Read The Full Article …

Cognitive Dissonance: The Lies We Tell Ourselves and How They Can Help Us Change

Have you ever heard of Cognitive Dissonance? Cognitive dissonance sounds like a mouthful but it’s a fascinating concept and one that, unknowingly, you’ve been practicing all your life. When you see something in a shop and you want it but it’s just too expensive and you can’t afford it, have you ever convinced yourself that: it wasn’t that great anyway it didn’t fit you that well you don’t need it anyway because you have one nearly like this at home It might all be true but, often, it’s just a lie. So why do we do this? To downgrade the … Read The Full Article …

The Pyramid Technique: Effective Communication, What It Is And How To Do It

“The problem with communication is the illusion that it has occurred.” ~ George Bernard Shaw Many people if you asked them would consider that they communicate well… …in answering that question, the majority of people are most likely considering how good their spoken and written skills are, how good their grammar and vocabulary are. All important points – but are they the most essential skills for effective communication? It is also important, if not, most important to consider the appropriateness of the message to a given audience, both in terms of timing, structure and content and also to understand not … Read The Full Article …

Vitamin C: How Much Do We Really Need It?

Vitamin C is quite well known and widely used as a supplement, but how much do you know about it? Do you need Vitamin C? Oh yes you do! Read on to understand why and what’s the best way to get your daily recommended dose. The most popular vitamin… Vitamin C is very popular. People know about it and most take it as a supplement and give it to their children – sometimes it is the only vitamin supplement they take. Is this popularity justified? What are the effects of vitamin C on the body, in which food is vitamin … Read The Full Article …